Episode 105

Ask the Questions. It Will Change Everything.

What if one skill could change your education, your career path, and your confidence?

In this deeply personal episode of Campus Chronicles, Brooke sits down with her sister Bailey Young, a licensed social worker, recent Master of Social Work graduate, and Child Play Therapist, to talk about resilience, education, and the power of asking meaningful questions.

Bailey’s academic journey was anything but typical. During her undergraduate studies, she became bedridden after suffering multiple disc herniations at just 19 years old. With chronic pain, delayed diagnosis, and months of attending university online, she was forced to reimagine what learning looked like. Instead of giving up, Bailey fought for her education and graduated with a 4.0 GPA, eventually earning her Master’s degree.

Because much of her college experience happened remotely, Bailey built deep, transformative relationships with her professors. Those relationships shaped not only her education but her desire to one day become a professor herself. Throughout the conversation, she shares how curiosity, preparation, and asking thoughtful questions became her greatest strength.

This episode is honest, reflective, and filled with practical wisdom for students navigating uncertainty, internships, interviews, health challenges, or self doubt.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How Bailey continued her education while bedridden

• Why strong professor relationships changed her academic path

• How asking questions builds confidence and connection

• What makes a truly great question

• Why interviews are a two way conversation

• How to prepare questions that reveal culture and values

• Why discomfort is part of real growth

• How to stop selling yourself short

• Why confidence is built through action, not perfection

• Three pieces of advice Bailey gives to university students

This episode is a reminder that education is not about perfection. It is about persistence, curiosity, and believing you belong in the room.

About Bailey:

Bailey Young is a licensed social worker and Child Play Therapist, and a recent Master of Social Work graduate from Campbellsville University. She is a small business owner, book reviewer, and Fundraising Coordinator for Ashland Special Needs Ministry, supporting their annual Night to Shine event. Bailey also volunteers with organisations supporting the special needs community and provides companionship to older adults in nursing homes and assisted living facilities.

Connect with Bailey:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/baileymitzy/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/murraysmiraculousmission/

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We have a very special guest today,

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someone who is so close to my heart.

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I have seen her grow up,

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I have grown up with her.

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We have my little but not so little

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anymore, sister Bailey here with us.

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Thank you so much for having me Brooke.

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I am so very excited to speak with you

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about my educational journey, though you

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already know a lot of it, some of the

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different challenges and to share them

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with the audience that

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you so love and adore.

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Bailey, before we jump into it, what is

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your campus Chronicles story?

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So my campus Chronicles story is a little

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bit different from

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what I even anticipated.

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I started my educational journey to get

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my associates degree

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during the time of COVID.

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And as we all know, that was a bit of a

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challenging time and no one was really

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quite sure what to expect.

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And on top of COVID, partway through my

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associates, I became bedridden due to

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some different medical issues.

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So I had two herniated discs, which went

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undiagnosed for a very long

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time because in my family,

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we're genetically predispositioned

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towards them somewhat.

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It runs down my family line, but at my

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age, no one really anticipated me to have

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issues that early in life.

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So no one was checking or testing for it.

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And me with my personality being who I am

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and seeing all I had seen growing up, my

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mom and my grandmother struggled with

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those issues and the

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chronic pain was thinking,

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well, it's not as bad as theirs has been.

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So I was rating myself lower than I

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should have been and the pain just kept

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getting worse and worse until I was

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bedridden for multiple months and

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completed a lot of my college online.

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So that is a unique part of my story that

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really changed how I view education.

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I always valued it.

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I always believed that, you know, an

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education is very important in life, but

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that shifted my value so much and it made

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me really work for my education in a

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different way I had to fight for it

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because I was thinking I would have to

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drop out of school because I could not

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concentrate very well.

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I spent many more hours on

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assignments than I had to.

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didn't have that much else to do because

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I was bedridden and I couldn't do much,

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but I invested all of my time and focus

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and energy and fighting for my education

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and continuing that I was able to retain

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a 4.0 throughout it all.

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And I did not have to stop and quit.

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And now I have my master's.

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So it's been a crazy journey.

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I never thought that I would achieve

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that, at least at that point in my life,

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I was wondering if I had

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to drop out of associate.

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interesting journey, that's for sure.

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I know something about your interesting

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journey is that you developed really

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strong, very meaningful relationships

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with your college professors because you

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weren't around your peers doing your

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coursework, you were doing it from your

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bed, you were doing it from home online.

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relationships with your professors.

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And now you yourself are

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going to become a professor.

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Yes, that is one of my main aspirations

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in life now that I have graduated,

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because I really, when I was bedridden,

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focused on these relationships.

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I had always valued intergenerational

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connections and relationships, but there

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was this shift into, that was my entire

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college experience and connection was

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through my professors.

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online, so it continued to be.

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not just my education, but some of my

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personal and

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professional development and growth.

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In that sense, the peer connection was

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lost sometimes to a degree.

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the same people and was in

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the same courses with them.

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consistently and interacting with them

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really helped me define how I wanna be,

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how I want to teach, which is something I

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never thought I would be trying to strive

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towards the soon in life, but here I am.

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Those are my next steps.

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of teaching, but all of

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them were impactful to me.

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All of them I really loved.

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There was a teacher who was so fun loving

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and said, you know, off the wall things.

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just loose and friendly and encouraging

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towards us constantly.

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professor who was more strict and a lot

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of the other students would say things

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like, ooh, I'm kind of scared of her.

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didn't just push us hard and

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not put any effort towards us.

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I saw her putting in the effort for us

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every single week, grading and keeping

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out a grading schedule

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and putting it in on time.

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And I did extra credit in that course,

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even though I ended up exceeding 100%,

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I continued to do it.

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Oh, Richie, you were much.

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I did because I loved her so much.

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And the extra credit was reading a book

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and having a weekly

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conversation with her.

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I was the only one that decided to do the

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extra credit in a policy course.

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a few people and everyone else dropped

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off and they stopped doing the extra

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credit and kept

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complaining about the course.

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these conversations.

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one of reply to the questions she asked.

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forth, back and forth.

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It was so enriching.

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conversations and in those interactions

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weekly, even though she was more strict.

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hardest professors they had in social

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work, which is what my major is.

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I loved her.

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presented themselves, some professors are

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not great professors.

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while, I'm like, yeah, that wouldn't be a

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very fun or positive experience to have.

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was very fortunate to have these

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different experiences and interactions.

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They were very different people.

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They taught in different ways.

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They interacted in different ways, but I

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found a lot of value and different things

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that I wanted to take and learn from it.

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interactions helped me grow.

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We all have different teachers and bosses

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in life, and we may not always jive or

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that may not be how you would do things,

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but there's definitely something to learn

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from most or almost all of the

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interactions that we have with different

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people and the

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connections that we create.

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And my professors were one of the big

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things in showing me that.

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And another professor that I had,

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different from the two I spoke about

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earlier, was a very kind professor.

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She really just wanted to encourage

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everyone and get to know

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their personal stories.

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So that was her connection point.

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What is your story?

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And I told her parts of my story that

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were challenging for me to talk about,

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but that was a large part of my healing

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during that time, was having

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conversations with her.

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challenges I was going through and some

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of those conversations that led to

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healing and growth with her, she really

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helped me on my faith journey personally

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by the different things that she spoke

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about and the way she went about things.

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In a time where I was very uncertain

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about some different things.

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So there are all different ways that if

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you really ask the questions, you open

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up, you seek that connection.

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If they are good people, people who want

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to educate, to expand your mind, to help

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you grow, to help you find your path in

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life, they will respond

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maybe in very different ways.

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They might be hard on

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you, they might be fun.

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They might just really

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want to hear your story.

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they will help you grow.

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biggest things I learned.

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one of your primary influences is a

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professional question-asker, but you told

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me on so many different occasions, you

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were able to form these very meaningful

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connections and have these deep,

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enriching, nourishing conversations

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because you knew how to ask questions.

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Yes, and that is one of the things I get

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feedback on actually.

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At my job as well, in my performance, my

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first performance review, one of the

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feedback was, you're doing wonderful.

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Keep doing what you're doing to grow.

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Keep asking questions

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because that is your biggest asset.

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Professors will tell

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me, keep asking questions.

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I love that you ask questions.

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I love that you reach out about this.

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I love that you ask insightful questions

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too that make them think and make them

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get to know you a bit better and learn

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about you, depending on how you phrase

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things and go about things.

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small or too big to ask.

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You can definitely reach out.

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I encourage you to reach out.

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which is one of my big aspirations in

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life, to become an adjunct professor,

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that way I can decide whether or not I

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want to pursue a doctoral

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degree or not, ask questions.

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We want you to, they want you to.

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That is one of the

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big things that I hear.

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Ask the questions.

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What makes the difference between, in

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your opinion, a good or great question

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and a subpar question?

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What makes a great question?

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I mean, that's a bit challenging to

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answer because there are a few different

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things that matter in the question.

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Obviously, you want your question to make

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sense grammatically and to flow.

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A good question has to make a lot of

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sense to the reader and

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be specific, not ambiguous.

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But beyond that, I'll tell you a story

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about my interview when I was

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interviewing for jobs.

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I went in to interviews and I view an

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interview for internships, for jobs.

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Regardless, it doesn't matter how young

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you are or where you are in life,

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interview is an important part of the

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process where you are interviewing them

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as much as they are interviewing you.

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And yes, listen to

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Bailey, she's so right.

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The first interview that I went to,

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because I went to many and I

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called many different places.

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I didn't limit myself to what I had.

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You know, like 12 different places I

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called, four different places I

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physically went and interviewed at.

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The first one I went to was telling me

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how amazing their

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organization would be for me.

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And they were doing a lot of talking.

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And they said, this would just be an

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internship, not a job, because you're

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still going out for your master's, even

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though I had my

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license and could have a job.

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And it was very needed

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in our area at that time.

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And I knew that they needed LSWs to be

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working in the mental health field.

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That was a huge need,

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almost every agency needed that.

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And I knew I could get a job.

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And they said they didn't want to give me

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a job, just an internship

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and they did all the talking.

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So they were off my list instantly.

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And then I went somewhere else and had

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this three hour long interview where they

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asked me a ton of questions that were

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really insightful and rich.

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And here is what really

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makes a good question.

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They assessed my character.

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They asked me questions about myself that

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were deeper than what's on your resume.

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What are you good at?

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They wanted to know me personally.

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They asked questions about where I see

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myself in the future, what my strengths

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were, what my weaknesses were, what some

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of my different challenges were.

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conversation that went on for three

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hours, even though the interview was not

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supposed to take that long because they

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asked such good questions

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and they were enriching.

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They excited me.

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I loved it.

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this is where I wanna work.

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These questions show me they want someone

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who has grown to a certain level and they

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want someone that they

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can help continue to grow.

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growth if they're asking these questions,

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if they're giving these types of answers

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in response to my questions because I had

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a list of questions I brought too that I

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wanted to know from them.

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one question and the phrasing, it's about

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having a dialogue where you are actually

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getting to know each

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other, even in small ways.

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Sometimes I will ask

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questions to professors.

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I did this a lot because I tend to write

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a lot and speak a lot and

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I tend to go over on time.

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That's one of my weaknesses is in videos,

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I would go over on

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time, on the time length.

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I would write papers

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past the requirement length.

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I tend to be wordy because I want that

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full comprehensive thought

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where I am giving you all

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that richness and that depth.

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And sometimes professors would tell me,

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you went past the required depth to get

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an A on the project.

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You went past that, but

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I still, that's just me.

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That's just what I love to do.

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But the-- We lead with so much curiosity.

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I do?

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I think what I was getting to there is

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with the depth is I will ask questions

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that get to know their personality and

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they get to know mine.

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I go over and I would ask them, will you

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count me off for going over?

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Because I know my personality

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and I've kind of explained some of that.

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Like I sometimes struggle because I want

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to get to that deep level.

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And then they, a lot of the times they

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would tell me, you know, that's fine.

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I won't count you off if you go off.

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But they got to know a part of my

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personality and I got to know that they

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appreciated that effort and that they

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weren't going to count me off as long as

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it wasn't repeating the same thing over

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and over again to get

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into a longer length.

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It was actually new, rich, deep content.

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presenting something about yourself and

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you can take away something from them.

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And that really helps grow your

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relationship, even in small ways.

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If someone is going into a job interview,

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an internship interview, something like

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that, and they want to bring insightful

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questions to the table, but maybe the

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skill is new for them.

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What advice do you have about how do you

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develop insightful questions?

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How do you come up

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with them if this is new?

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Write them down before.

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That is my biggest piece of advice.

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I would write down and sit, and sometimes

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it would be the same question, the same,

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it was getting at the same

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heart of the same matter.

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And I wrote it down four or five

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different ways and then I

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picked out the best one.

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And then I refined my

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list and cut it down.

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I said, these are the

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questions I want to bring.

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first process for the first time, because

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it was new to me too, I had a list of

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about 20 different questions.

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And some of them were very similar or

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almost duplicates, but I cut it down and

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chose the questions

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that mattered the most.

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What do I need to know?

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The questions that would tell me most

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about the organization that I was working

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for, the questions that were worded the

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best and that sounded the most like me,

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where I knew they would understand what I

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meant, but I would also receive the

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message that I wanted to hear, whether

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that was a yes or a no, whether they were

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really taken aback or uncertain, because

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the organizational

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culture really matters.

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The employees freely matter.

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How you interact with

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people really matter.

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So I really, the interview, that three

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hour interview I told you about, I really

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loved my interviewer because I knew they

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would be my supervisor.

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And at the end of that

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interview, I knew one thing.

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This is who I want to learn from.

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That was all I needed to know.

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This is who I want to learn from.

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The way that they interacted with me,

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listened to me, answered my questions.

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I knew they were going to show up in the

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way that I needed them to.

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They were a very relaxed individual.

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And I am someone who sometimes is a bit

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more anxious, where I

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need to ask those questions.

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I need to have that clarity.

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I need to have conversations and bring

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things to you, even if it's like, "Wow,

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this is my third or

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fourth question of the day.

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I feel a little bad here, but I need to

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have these conversations with you because

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this is where my growth

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is, and I want to grow.

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I don't want to stop, you know, and just

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shut off and not have the opportunity for

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growth because I'm

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scared to ask these questions.

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I'm scared to analyze the interaction,

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even if it wasn't a big thing that

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necessarily needs to be said or done.

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This is something that I kind of went,

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"Oh, I'm uncomfortable with this," or,

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"Oh, that didn't go as good as I hoped,

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and I want to grow from that.

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I want to be better next time."

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And that was someone I knew would help me

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be better next time in a

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way that I needed them to.

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And that was all I needed

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to know from that interview.

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And every individual is different.

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Everyone has different personalities.

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You may need someone

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who is, you know, uptight.

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Maybe that's a good

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description for someone on time.

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Stick to a schedule.

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We meet this time every single week.

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You know, we have this

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amount of time to talk.

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That might work for you.

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That might be the best person for you.

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I'm not saying you have to have someone

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relaxed, but you really need to find that

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match and trust your gut feeling of what

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your match is going to be to learn and

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grow from them if you're going into

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learn, because this is an experience

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that, you know, we can learn and grow

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from negative experiences.

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We can.

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And they can shape us and change us and

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be important, impactful parts of our life

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that also drove us crazy and kind of

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broke us and we grew and

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were more beautiful from it.

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But I don't want that for you.

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I want you to have a beautiful experience

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where you are getting everything that you

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need from the start.

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And you do that by preparing.

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You do that by

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interviewing multiple people.

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You do that by having a mindset of, you

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know, they are, you can be grateful that

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someone is taking you under their wing

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and that they're going to help you and

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they're going to give you

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experience and help you grow.

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But there are so many people who could be

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doing that and you don't have to be

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somewhere that treats you poorly.

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You deserve to be in a place, in a

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position where you feel comfortable,

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where you feel confident, where they are

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actually investing in you too.

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And that is what I want for you.

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That's one of the reasons I want to be a

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professor is to show up in

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that way for individuals.

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And the way that I have

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had so many show up for me.

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And that's one of the things

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that I would stress to you is

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it's important to be grateful.

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Yes, be grateful for the people that show

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up in your life, but also know that, you

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know, when it's their job and their role

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to show up for you, they

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should be showing up for you.

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And find someone who will, who you know

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will do the work to do that.

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It is work.

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It is time.

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It is uncertainty of, am

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I making the right choice?

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Do I trust my gut feeling?

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Do I trust my head?

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What do I do?

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If you're religious, you know, maybe

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praying for guidance, that's what I did.

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And just really, really

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invest that time in it.

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One thing I want to add to that, cause

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that was so beautiful.

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And it's exactly the reason I wanted to

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have you on the show is you have this

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beautiful way of dispelling these very

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large nuanced topics into these beautiful

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sound bites like you just did.

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The other thing I would add to what

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Bailey said as well is it's how you show

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respect to yourself.

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When you ask questions, when you look for

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a match that's in alignment with

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yourself, that's you

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showing respect to yourself.

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And that is such a nourishing, beautiful

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experience to show that respect for

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yourself, to wait for the right match.

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So you're not jumping into the first

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opportunity that offers you a position,

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but you're thoughtfully and carefully

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creating a life that feels good to you.

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Bailey, you have been quoted once saying,

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"Education is the

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liberation of the mind."

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And that quote really stuck with me cause

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I thought that was profound.

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If you were going to give the three

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pieces of advice to uni-age students, so

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university-age students, what would those

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three pieces of advice be?

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And they can be about absolutely

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anything.

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Oh my, I would have more

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than three I think to give.

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Well, if you could

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condense them to three.

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Let's go with three.

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First off, you can learn

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from absolutely anything.

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There is value in what you were learning.

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Even when you think maybe it doesn't have

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as much value or isn't quite as

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applicable to you, there is value in

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everything that you were learning.

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So show up, put in the work to learn to

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actually glean new knowledge from it and

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to actually grow from that learning.

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Second,

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new experiences really do help us.

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They help our growth, they transform us.

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They are an important part of learning

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and a new experience

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can be almost anything.

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So if you are someone who doesn't ask the

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questions like we were talking about

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earlier, because you're afraid of it or

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because you're kind of scared of asking

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them, ask the questions.

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It's a new experience to learn and grow

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from and reflect upon it afterwards to

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keep learning and growing from that

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reflection is such an important part of

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growth when you are critically evaluating

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what happened, what that interaction was

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like, and then taking that feedback and

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turning it into a

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conclusion to move forward.

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That's actually something that

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experiential learning

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theory, a theorist created.

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And it is, if you

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don't know it, look it up.

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Any experience can be a learning

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experience to learn from and it is so

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important to keep learning and to take

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those experiences even when uncomfortable

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to push us to be better because

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uncomfortability is not a bad thing.

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We think it is, but

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it is not a bad thing.

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Well, it feels

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painful, it feels vulnerable.

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It feels like the foundation that we were

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standing on has shifted, right?

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When we're uncomfortable, we start to

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feel uncertain about

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everything in our lives.

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But that is also the point in time when

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you have the opportunity to strengthen

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your foundation, to add new

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knowledge and new skills to it.

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And through that uncomfortability to

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grow, that way you were stronger and then

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you were at a different level than you

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were, maybe in thought or in attitude or

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in interactions, maybe

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you're treating others kindly.

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Maybe you are thinking less about how am

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I presenting myself and how can I show up

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for others who might be feeling the same

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thing I am, the same uncomfortability I

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am and get those answers and encourage

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others to go through that process too.

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So anything can be a

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learning experience, learn, grow.

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You don't necessarily have to do it

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alone, but really important that you do

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the things that

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sometimes make you uncomfortable.

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Now, my third piece of advice would be

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don't sell yourself short.

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You can acknowledge where you are at in

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life, what you have accomplished, your

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strengths, your weaknesses.

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That three hour

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interview that I went into,

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I had never had a

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clinical experience before.

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And if you're not familiar with social

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work, that means I'm sitting down

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one-on-one with you doing therapy, which

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is one of the many jobs I have now is I

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sit and I do therapy

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one-on-one with children.

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And I went into that interview and I was

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very honest about that.

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No, I have not done the

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clinical one-on-one aspect.

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I have done fundraising and I've been in

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the school setting,

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but that I have not done.

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So I wanted to be honest about that, but

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I also didn't sell myself short.

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And it's very important that when you are

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walking into a classroom and you're more

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uncomfortable with the knowledge and

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you're like, "Ooh, this wasn't my best

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subject in high school," or you're

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walking into an internship interview and

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:

you're trying to figure out where you're

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gonna go or maybe into

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a club or something new.

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And maybe you've had some experience or

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no experience that you don't sell

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yourself short with what you bring to the

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table, with what you have to offer.

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You don't have to be overly confident to

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not sell yourself short.

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You just have to be honest

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about, "This is what I have.

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"This is what I don't

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:

have to bring to the table."

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And that honesty is so important to be

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very, very honest in what you do and what

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you bring to the table.

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And to be honest with yourself, that's

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even more important because if you have

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the tendency to downplay the different

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skillsets that you already have, the

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different experiences you've had and how

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they could translate and be of value,

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that's a disservice to you and your

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confidence and your feelings of

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competence moving throughout the world.

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You have so much more than

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you think you already have.

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Acknowledge that, be honest about that.

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And you can still say,

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"I have these weaknesses

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"and recognize your strengths."

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It's not an either or.

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If anyone listening right now could take

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just one piece of advice, one thing to

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truly remember from what Bailey said,

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because there were so many great things,

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that third point right there is something

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I still do and have struggled with.

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And the issue with selling yourself short

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is it doesn't build that confidence

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muscle because confidence is

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incrementally built.

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Confidence is built when we, like Bailey

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said, put ourselves in new scenarios, put

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ourselves in new situations, go out on

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the limb and ask the uncomfortable

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question because it will make other

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people grateful we did.

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So I love all three pieces of advice.

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Those are beautiful, beautiful.

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And I ask everyone to just please store

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those in your heart because they are

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gonna help you so much.

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Thank you.

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And just to add to that for a moment,

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because you said it's so important and

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you still struggle with it, I do too.

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I am not saying by

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any means that I do not.

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Yes, we all struggle with it.

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That was actually one of the biggest

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pieces of feedback in my one-year

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performance review at my job.

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It was keep doing what you're doing

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because I ask for more feedback because I

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felt like I didn't get enough.

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I was at meeting or

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exceeding expectations.

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And I said, "What can

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I improve upon here?"

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And she said, "Keep doing what you're

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doing because you're

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asking the right questions."

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So question asking is important.

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The second thing she said to me was, "I

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want to see you be more confident.

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You have so much knowledge.

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You can hang with the rest of us who have

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been here for a decade,

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which is kind of hard to believe.

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It blows my mind sometimes.

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But when you enter those conversations

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with us to talk about different things

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and to brainstorm solutions for really

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tough problems, you come in lacking

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confidence or with a

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little bit of hesitance.

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And I want to see you be more confident

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because you already have it.

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You just have to believe and really work

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on being more confident in the way that

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you portray yourself."

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And that was my piece of

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advice, be more confident.

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So I want everybody to also take that

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piece of advice and apply it to yourself,

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whether you're going into an internship,

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whether you're dating, whether you're

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going into a job, or even trying to ask a

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professor a tough question and maybe they

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seem a little hard to approach.

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Take that piece of advice.

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And like I said, I

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still struggle with it.

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It's not easy to do, but the more that we

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can build those muscles,

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the easier and easier it gets.

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Bailey, I have had so much fun with you.

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You did not disappoint as

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we wrap up and close here.

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Is there any closing

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remarks you want to share?

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I mean, as far as closing remarks, I feel

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very grateful to have been on here to

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share some encouragement and insights

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into my experience and some of those key

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takeaways that I feel like would be so

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valuable for others.

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And I have to say, as someone who is

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looking at, transitioning into more

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leadership roles, into potentially

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teaching and becoming a university

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professor, that the same piece of advice

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that I gave you, they're what I would

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want to see in my students.

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They're the kind of growth that I would

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strive towards getting them to reach.

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So it's not just you doing it for

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yourself necessarily

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and having no support.

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There are people who will support you on

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the journey to grow some of those skills

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and you'll get some positive feedback

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sometimes when you ask those questions,

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when you take those risks, there are

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people who will support you and who will

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celebrate seeing your

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growth, who want that for you.

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Bailey has been working on her masters

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for the past

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extremely long period of time.

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I've been really looking forward to

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having her on the podcast because I knew

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how much depth of insight and depth of

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wisdom she could share, probably because

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she got her mind liberated by education.

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And you did not disappoint.

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For me, this was a particularly beautiful

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and exciting and heartwarming and

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:

meaningful episode because to see the

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ways that you've grown from being

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bad-readed, from being in that extremely

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hard struggle to where you are now is

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exactly the sort of story that I want to

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spotlight for our viewers because no

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matter where you are right now or what

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you may be going through,

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it can get so much better.

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Ask the questions, believe in yourself,

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show up owning the

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scope of your knowledge.

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Bailey, thank you so

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much for coming on today.

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Thank you so much for having me.

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Oh my goodness, and thank you so much to

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everybody for joining us on another

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episode of the Campus Chronicles Podcast.

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Brooke Young is a multi-passionate publicist, lifestyle TV host, public speaking mentor, and communication consultant. She works with a wide range of clients across the globe, and across a diverse range of industries, to help them create, develop, and promote powerful messages through heart-centered storytelling. Additionally, as a Lifestyle Expert and TV Host, she is passionate about sharing solutions and products that make everyone's lives happier and healthier. She has formerly worked On-Air with FOX Sports, competed in the Miss America Organization, and is the Author of a Children's Book. She has over a decade of professional performing background and loves sharing stories that truly matter.